Baby Blues

A Human Obstacle in Our Path


We spent six long months navigating the egg donor process. We finally picked the clinic and were ready to move forward, but found ourselves up against a challenge that threatened our future. Namely, the unwillingness of a medical provider to stay true to her word.

In order to be able to use an overseas clinic for egg donation more efficiently, important medical steps need to be completed here at home. First, we both needed to undergo routine medical tests to ensure that we are free from disease, and healthy enough to participate in the process. This required both tests of our reproductive systems, and blood work to rule out any issues or problems. Thankfully, we each got the green light from both our  primary care doctors here, and our gynecologist Dr. Silhan in the Czech Republic.

The next step was to find a gynecologist here in the United States willing to work with Dr. Silhan in the Czech Republic to prescribe the required hormones to prepare my body for the embryo transfer. Despite the fact that these hormones are regularly used in fertility clinics in the United States, Dr. Silhan cautioned that in some instances, American doctors have been unwilling or apprehensive to prescribe the required medication. Their apprehension often stems from an unfamiliarity with the European names and dosages for fertility medications.

We were hopeful that my gynecologist, who knew we are pursuing the egg donor route, would work with our gynecologist in the Czech Republic. I asked Jeff to reach out to her nurse to gauge the doctor’s willingness to prescribe the necessary medication protocol. Initially, the doctor was willing to help, and requested the medication protocol prescribed by the Czech physician. Days later, the doctor changed her mind. She was no longer comfortable or willing to prescribe the medications, and gave no credible reason for her change of heart.

When I heard this news, I was overwhelmed with sadness and despair. In the midst of doing housework, I collapsed into a ball of tears. I saw her lack of cooperation as an impediment that we could not overcome. I was ready to give up. Meanwhile Jeff was determined to find another option. In his quest to find a solution, he reached out to a woman who serves as an American contact for the clinic in the Czech Republic. She suggested using a pharmacy in the United Kingdom, to purchase the required medications.

We quickly reached out to Dr. Silhan, who in the midst of his vacation, prescribed the necessary medications, thereby putting us back on track. We turned what could have been a deterrent, the unexpected and unprofessional behavior of another, into a chance to use our creativity and determination to push forward to our goal.

Two weeks later, with medication in hand, I began the hormone treatment, and the doctor began to prepare the donor for a December egg retrieval date.

Our inner peace was once again restored, and now it was time to plan for our journey to the Czech Republic.